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Anxiety & ADHD: The Ultimate Frenemy Duo

Some days, I’m a productivity queen.

Other days, I stare at my to-do list like it personally betrayed me and then spiral because I forgot to answer an email from 4 days ago and now I’m convinced everyone hates me.

Welcome to the magical clusterfuck of living with ADHD and anxiety—the mental equivalent of a glitter bomb and a fire drill happening at the same time.

It’s not that we don’t care.

It’s that we care so much it fries our brains.

We want to do all the things, perfectly, immediately … but we forget, get overwhelmed, or freeze because our brains have too many browser tabs open, and one of them is playing music we can’t find.

What helps? Not fixing yourself.

Because spoiler: you were never broken.

You were just never taught how to work with a brain like yours.

So here’s your permission slip:

You can take breaks without guilt.

You can use sticky notes, alarms, and chaos rituals to get through the day.

You can laugh at the mess and still love yourself.

Healing doesn’t mean becoming someone else.

It means learning to hold space for the badass, forgetful, anxious, sparkly goblin that you are. And showing up for her with compassion—especially on the days she feels like a disaster.

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Melissa is an avid reader, loves coffee, and is awed by the arts. She has been running There for You Editing company since 2011, and has edited over 700 manuscripts. She is the mother to two amazing children, Kendric and Amelia, has 2 beautiful granddaughter, and is married to the love of her life. She resides in Connecticut, where she has lived her whole life.

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