Category: mental-health

Posted in Life in your forties, mental-health, self care, Womanhood

Easy-Peasy Self-Care for Busy Women with ADHD, Depression, and Anxiety

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Self-care advice often sounds like it was written for someone with unlimited energy, time, money, and motivation.

If you’re living with ADHD, depression, anxiety … or all three at once, that kind of advice can feel impossible. Sometimes even basic things feel heavy. Sometimes just getting through the day is the achievement.

This is self-care for real life.

No perfection. No hustle. No shame.

Lower the Bar. On Purpose.

Self-care doesn’t need to be impressive.

It doesn’t need to be aesthetic.

It doesn’t need to “fix” everything.

If something helps even a little… it counts.

Lowering the bar isn’t giving up. It’s meeting yourself where you are and choosing kindness instead of pressure.

If You Can’t Get Out of Bed, That’s Okay

Some days, getting out of bed feels like climbing a mountain. On those days, self-care can look like staying put and doing one tiny thing:

• sipping water

• taking your meds

• stretching your toes

• opening a window

That’s not nothing. That’s care.

Pair Care with Dopamine

ADHD brains work better with rewards, not willpower. One of the easiest ways to make self-care doable is to pair it with something you already enjoy.

Try this:

• coffee = meds

• shower = favorite song

• skincare = podcast or comfort video

If you don’t do it perfectly, that’s fine. If you skip it entirely, that’s fine too. There is no punishment system here.

Halfway Is Enough

You do not have to finish the whole task.

• fold some laundry

• wash only the forks

• clean for two minutes

Half done is not failure.

Half done is progress.

Make Life Ridiculously Easy

You’re not lazy. You’re tired. You’re overstimulated. You’re adapting.

Make things easier on purpose:

• keep water next to you

• keep snacks where you sit

• put a trash can by the bed

Convenience isn’t cheating. Convenience is self-care.

Regulate the Body First

When anxiety spikes, logic usually doesn’t help right away. Your nervous system needs calming before your thoughts can follow.

Try grounding through your senses:

• cold water on your wrists

• pet something furry

• wrap yourself in a heavy blanket

• hold something textured

Calm the body first. The brain will catch up later.

One Tiny Promise a Day

Forget the overwhelming to-do list.

Choose one small promise you know you can keep.

One task. One moment. One gentle win.

Momentum grows from success, not pressure.

Rest Without Earning It

You do not have to be productive to deserve rest.

Rest is not a reward.

Rest is maintenance.

You’re allowed to stop. You’re allowed to lie down. You’re allowed to breathe without justifying it.

A Reminder You Might Need Today

You are not lazy.

You are not broken.

You are tired, overstimulated, and still trying.

And that matters more than you think.

Posted in adhd in women, book editor, Menopause, mental-health, Perimenopause, Womanhood

Perimenopause Isn’t a Phase … It’s a Plot Twist

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Nobody warned me perimenopause was going to feel like:

•being too hot and too cold at the same time

•crying because a commercial was “too meaningful”

•rage-cleaning the kitchen like I’m in an action movie

•forgetting why I walked into a room … while also remembering every embarrassing thing I’ve ever done since birth

It’s like my hormones are holding a meeting without me, and every decision is chaos.

And sure, you can slap a “self-care” sticker on it. But sometimes the self-care is just not fighting a stranger in the grocery store because they breathed near you.

What Perimenopause Really Feels Like

Some days it’s subtle … a little more tired, a little more irritable. Other days it’s like my body wakes up and chooses a random setting from the control panel of hell:

Mood: fragile raccoon with a grudge

Sleep: never heard of her

Memory: buffering … buffering … gone

Body temp: haunted thermostat

Patience: expired in 2009

And the hardest part isn’t even the symptoms.

It’s the way the world acts like you’re supposed to keep functioning at full capacity while your hormones are out here playing Jenga with your nervous system.

“Am I Crazy?” No. You’re Becoming a New Version of You.

Let me say this clearly …

You’re not “crazy.”

You’re not “too much.”

You’re not “losing it.”

You’re in a biological plot twist.

Your body is doing a huge internal renovation and nobody handed you the manual. Meanwhile, you still have to show up for life like nothing is happening.

So if you’ve been feeling unlike yourself lately, if your emotions are louder, your energy is lower, your tolerance for nonsense is nonexistent …

That’s not a character flaw.

That’s hormones, stress, sleep disruption, and your nervous system waving a little white flag.

Closing

So here’s your reminder (and mine)

You’re not broken. You’re evolving. And if today all you can do is drink water, take your vitamins, and not commit a felony …

That counts. 💅

Posted in adhd in women, mental-health

Get Your Copy Today

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✨ For the women who are tired, messy, magical, and still fighting ✨

You’ve been told to “just be positive.”

You’ve been told to “calm down.”

You’ve been told to “get over it.”

My answer?

Absolutely not.

You Were Never Broken is my love letter to every woman navigating ADHD, anxiety, depression, and the everyday chaos of life. It’s funny, sarcastic, and deeply honest … because healing doesn’t have to look like a Pinterest board.

Laugh. Cry. Cuss. Feel seen.

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Stop Calling Me Strong: I’m Tired, Babe

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You ever notice how “strong” always sounds like a compliment, but somehow ends up feeling like a curse?

Like … thanks, I guess?

But what you really mean is:

“I know life keeps sucker punching you, but I fully expect you to eat your feelings, smile pretty, and keep carrying the weight of everyone else’s emotional baggage, in heels, with lashes on … while gaslit into thinking you should be grateful for the resilience.”

Yeah. No.

Let’s talk about it.

Being “strong” became my identity. And then it became my prison.

I was the girl who handled everything. Independent. Capable. “So mature for her age.”

The problem?

No one thought to help me. They just assumed I’d figure it out.

Being the strong one means people stop asking if you’re okay.

They assume you always are.

Even when you’re not.

Even when you’re breaking.

And if you do crack under pressure?

They look at you like you’ve betrayed them.

Like the mascot of emotional survival wasn’t supposed to have human limits.

Strength is not silence. It’s not self-sacrifice. It’s not smiling through trauma.

I am tired of being called strong as a way to avoid supporting me.

I’m not a superhero. I’m not a martyr.

I’m a woman who has survived shit she shouldn’t have had to.

And I’m exhausted.

What if I want to be soft today?

What if I need to fall apart?

What if I just want to scream-cry into a void and then take a nap while someone else makes the damn decisions?

That doesn’t make me weak.

That makes me human.

So here’s your permission slip:

You don’t have to perform strength to be worthy. You can cry, rage, rest, and ask for help. You can set that “strong woman” cape down and say: “I’m not doing it all today. Try someone else.”

Because strong isn’t the goal.

Alive is.

Peaceful is.

Unbothered, hydrated, and left the hell alone is.

And that, babe?

That’s the kind of power no one can take from you.

Posted in mental-health, writing

Self-Care Isn’t Bubble Baths—It’s Survival Magic

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Section 1: What Self-Care Really Looks Like

Forget the aesthetic Instagram posts.

Self-care can look like:

Crying in the shower because you finally let yourself feel it. Cancelling plans because burnout is whispering, “Please.” Setting a boundary and not over-explaining it. Making a to-do list that just says “wake up + survive.”

And yes, sometimes it is curling up with a book and a face mask.

But real self-care is less about pretty and more about permission.

Section 2: The Self-Care We Don’t Talk About Enough

Here’s the stuff we often skip:

Mental care: Going to therapy, taking your meds, journaling your rage instead of texting your ex. Emotional care: Letting yourself be soft. Or angry. Or silent. Digital care: Muting, blocking, deleting—and walking away from screens when they start screaming instead of soothing. Social care: Choosing people who don’t make you question your worth.

Section 3: A Self-Care Survival Kit (That Doesn’t Cost Money)

A playlist that makes you feel like a goddess in a hoodie 3 trusted people who let you be unfiltered A tiny ritual: morning coffee, evening stretch, whispering “I’m doing my best” to yourself in the mirror Saying “no” like it’s a full sentence (because it is)

Section 4: Final Reminder

You don’t owe anyone your sparkle when you’re just trying to hold it together.

Self-care isn’t selfish.

It’s how you stay alive in a world that keeps demanding more.

So light the damn candle, but also protect your peace like it’s sacred.

Because it is.

And so are you.

Posted in book editor, mental-health

Mentally, I’m Here

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Mentally, I’m here.

On a creaky porch beside a quiet river. Wrapped in the scent of pine and coffee. My phone’s nowhere in sight, and the only sound is pages turning and the occasional bird judging me for crying over fictional characters again.

The world slows down in places like this. It breathes softer. And so do I.

This is my fantasy: a good book, a hot mug, and a quiet escape from the chaos. No expectations, no deadlines, just stories and stillness.

Because sometimes healing looks like hiding.

And sometimes rest looks like reading.

What does rest look like to you? Where are you mentally today?