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Easy-Peasy Self-Care for Busy Women with ADHD, Depression, and Anxiety

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Self-care advice often sounds like it was written for someone with unlimited energy, time, money, and motivation.

If you’re living with ADHD, depression, anxiety … or all three at once, that kind of advice can feel impossible. Sometimes even basic things feel heavy. Sometimes just getting through the day is the achievement.

This is self-care for real life.

No perfection. No hustle. No shame.

Lower the Bar. On Purpose.

Self-care doesn’t need to be impressive.

It doesn’t need to be aesthetic.

It doesn’t need to “fix” everything.

If something helps even a little… it counts.

Lowering the bar isn’t giving up. It’s meeting yourself where you are and choosing kindness instead of pressure.

If You Can’t Get Out of Bed, That’s Okay

Some days, getting out of bed feels like climbing a mountain. On those days, self-care can look like staying put and doing one tiny thing:

• sipping water

• taking your meds

• stretching your toes

• opening a window

That’s not nothing. That’s care.

Pair Care with Dopamine

ADHD brains work better with rewards, not willpower. One of the easiest ways to make self-care doable is to pair it with something you already enjoy.

Try this:

• coffee = meds

• shower = favorite song

• skincare = podcast or comfort video

If you don’t do it perfectly, that’s fine. If you skip it entirely, that’s fine too. There is no punishment system here.

Halfway Is Enough

You do not have to finish the whole task.

• fold some laundry

• wash only the forks

• clean for two minutes

Half done is not failure.

Half done is progress.

Make Life Ridiculously Easy

You’re not lazy. You’re tired. You’re overstimulated. You’re adapting.

Make things easier on purpose:

• keep water next to you

• keep snacks where you sit

• put a trash can by the bed

Convenience isn’t cheating. Convenience is self-care.

Regulate the Body First

When anxiety spikes, logic usually doesn’t help right away. Your nervous system needs calming before your thoughts can follow.

Try grounding through your senses:

• cold water on your wrists

• pet something furry

• wrap yourself in a heavy blanket

• hold something textured

Calm the body first. The brain will catch up later.

One Tiny Promise a Day

Forget the overwhelming to-do list.

Choose one small promise you know you can keep.

One task. One moment. One gentle win.

Momentum grows from success, not pressure.

Rest Without Earning It

You do not have to be productive to deserve rest.

Rest is not a reward.

Rest is maintenance.

You’re allowed to stop. You’re allowed to lie down. You’re allowed to breathe without justifying it.

A Reminder You Might Need Today

You are not lazy.

You are not broken.

You are tired, overstimulated, and still trying.

And that matters more than you think.

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Anxious, But Still Hot: Coping with Anxiety Without Losing Your Damn Mind

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A guide for the overthinkers, panic-scrollers, and “what if” pros among us.

Let’s be honest: anxiety is exhausting. It’s like your brain installed a full-time alarm system that goes off at the worst possible moments. Grocery store? Ring, ring. Trying to relax on the couch? Sirens. Three a.m. and you suddenly remember that awkward thing you said in 2009? DEFCON 1.

If you’re a woman with anxiety, you’ve probably been told to “just calm down” more times than you’ve had coffee … and that’s saying something.

But you don’t need toxic positivity. You need tools. You need support. And maybe you need a nap. (Honestly, same.)

So here’s a non-judgy list of coping strategies that can help when your brain is doing its absolute most:

🌳 1. Go Outside (Yes, Like … Literally)

We’re talking fresh air, grass, sky, real sunlight. Nature slaps in the best way. You don’t have to go full wilderness girl—just sit on your porch, touch a leaf, and breathe for a damn second.

Bonus points: walking. Moving your body gently can lower cortisol and help that nervous energy go somewhere other than your jaw.

📵 2. Put Your Phone Down (We Love You, But Stop Scrolling)

Doomscrolling is anxiety’s favorite snack. If you’re spiraling after reading 300 posts about how the world is ending, it might be time to log out and touch some bark.

Instead, try:

Reading a real book (remember those?) Journaling it out Staring at a wall while you overthink in peace (we’ve all been there)

🧘‍♀️ 3. Grounding Techniques (aka Reality Checks for Anxious Brains)

When your brain starts spinning out, try the 5-4-3-2-1 method:

5 things you can see

4 things you can touch

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste

Or—my personal favorite—name five ridiculous things that aren’t your problem today. (The economy. Mercury in retrograde. Susan from accounting.)

☕ 4. Caffeine Check

This one might hurt: Too much coffee can make your anxiety worse. Rude, but true. If you’ve had 3 lattes and your heart’s doing the Macarena, maybe switch to water. Or tea. Or yell into a pillow. It’s all valid.

🤝 5. Connect With Someone (Even if It’s Just a Meme Exchange)

Because you deserve support, not just self-sufficiency.

Anxiety loves isolation. But connection—even tiny, silly, low-pressure connection—can remind you you’re not alone in the madness. Text a friend. Voice note someone. Send a meme. Say “I’m not okay” and let someone hold space for that.

💖 6. Let Yourself Off the Hook

You don’t have to do all the things. You don’t have to be “productive.” You don’t need to justify rest. Sometimes the bravest, most badass thing you can do is nothing, on purpose.

Your worth isn’t measured by how well you hide your anxiety.

Final Word: You’re Not Broken. You’re a Human with a Nervous System.

Anxiety isn’t a flaw. It’s a response. And you are not weak, dramatic, or “too much.” You’re carrying more than most people know—and still showing up.

Take a deep breath. Take your meds if you have them. Take a nap if you need one. You’re doing better than you think.

If this blog resonated with you, you should read You Were Never Broken.

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You Were Never Broken: A Love Letter to the Women Who Feel Like a Hot Mess

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Let’s just say it: life is messy.

Sometimes we’re glowing goddesses who drink green juice and journal.

Other times we’re doom-scrolling with one eye twitching and a to-do list screaming in the background.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much and not enough at the same time, welcome home.

You Were Never Broken isn’t just a book, it’s a deep breath, a pep talk, and a permission slip to stop apologizing for being human.

Written for the women who are tired of pretending they’ve got it all together (spoiler alert: none of us do), this book is part spiritual hug, part sarcastic rant, and part “holy crap, I needed to hear that.”

What’s Inside:

• Raw, relatable take on depression, anxiety, and ADHD

• Zero fluff, no toxic positivity—just honest tools for healing

• Empowering messages for the days when you feel like a chaotic gremlin

• A reminder that being sensitive, emotional, loud, or weird isn’t broken … it’s f*cking magical

Whether you’re mid-breakdown, mid-breakthrough, or somewhere in between, this book holds space for every version of you.

Who It’s For:

• The overthinkers

• The highly sensitive and slightly unhinged

• The women who light candles and cuss people out in traffic

• The exhausted empaths who still want to believe in magic

This is not a self-help book that tells you to “just think positive.”

It’s a mirror held up to your soul that says: Look. You made it this far. That’s not weakness, that’s power.

Final Word:

You don’t need fixing.

You don’t need to be quieter, smaller, easier to handle.

You need to be seen. Heard. Celebrated.

And this book? It’s the celebration.

You were never broken. You were always becoming.

Available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3SZIQDL